What have feet to do
with personality theory and relationships?
Well I am sure there
are people who can read every aspect of your feet. Just like palm readers do. I
won’t even go into whether or not those are exact sciences or even
true.
I’ve never even
really looked into it.
But when it
comes to relationships, one of the biggest problems is matching people of
similar or compatible personality types.
As you may know,
if you have been following my writings, I am a keen observer of things.
Particularly things to do with meeting women, picking up women, and relating to
women.
I talk about
different personality types that I named “love girls,” “beautiful teases,” and
“gradient girls” in many of my writings. Of course those were barroom terms and
observations I made 30 years ago.
(See:
"Would
You Like To Know How To Pick Up Women In Bars And Clubs?" http://datingtorelating.wordpress.com/would-you-like-to-know-how-to-pick-up-women-in-bars-and-clubs/
"How
To Meet Women In Bars and Clubs" http://datingtorelating.wordpress.com/how-to-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/,
and "Do You Want To Know How To Attract Women In Bars and Clubs?" http://datingtorelating.wordpress.com/do-you-want-to-know-how-to-attract-women-in-bars-and-clubs/ )
These days I use
more sophisticated personality observation systems. Systems that help me
tremendously in my every day life dealing with family, friends, and business
associates as well as my love interests and potential love interest.
But when writing
for you guys there is still some value in referring to these old barroom types,
because they are easily observable and most guys have bumped into them in a bar
or club once or twice or more.
Most of what I
observe, both then and now, has to do with motion and emotion and the actual
products people produce.
Now, I’m not
here to teach you about personality theory. And in fact I won’t.
As a subject it
is 100 times more complex than meeting, dating and relating to women. And there
are others who have already documented workable personality
technologies.
But the problem with
most dating gurus is related to this personality topic. There are different
types of men and different types of women. Different types of people relate
differently. If you want to be successful in your dating strategies it is not
something you can ignore.
Most dating
gurus do ignore personality types, however. They lump all men or all women into
one category and talk about what women think or what men feel, when the truth is
the variation between personality types is much greater than the variation
between the sexes.
In simple words,
the reason you don’t feel like you understand women (or men if you are a woman)
has more to do with not understanding different personality types than it has to
do with the differences between the sexes.
When you ignore
personality types, “pick up,” meeting,” and “relating” advice becomes a low
percentage game – strategies that work only 1 out of 10 times on the general
population. (Even though they might work a higher percentage of times in a
specific situation where you have an accumulation of a certain personality type
– like bars and clubs.)
Observational
strategies that take personality type into consideration work 8 or 9 times out
of ten on the general population – in every situation. Quite a difference in the
success rate. When you master personality types and situational dating and
relating methods you become a master of this area. When you can get 8 or 9 out
of 10 women that you target, you feel good and confident about your
self.
So, as I see it,
the problem comes down to this. Even if you are not a master of personality
types, if you had a way to meet women who were compatible with your own
personality type everything would flow pretty easy. You would pretty much know
what to do, know what to say, etc. It would be natural.
The problem is
the majority of guys don’t look at personality first they look at bodies.
And when they do
look at personality they get confused. They have no systematic way of observing,
understanding and predicting human behavior. So often it takes six months after
you meet a person to get through their “façade” or “social” personality before
they start showing you who they really are, and other times it is not even six
months. It is a major event that occurs – moving in together, marriage, etc. –
before they let down their guard and show you who they really are.
The reason I
became successful picking up women in bars and clubs 30 years ago, was I was
able to spot personality types from certain patterns of motion that they
exhibited. From that I was able to predict their behavior and apply situational
strategies that led them straight into my arms.
Now what I am
really trying to do with all my writings is teach you guys how to observe these
things for your self. That is what will make you a master of this area.
Sometimes I can give you guys my observations which can act as short cuts to
leaning, and I do when I can.
So here is one
of those…..
This is a
shortcut to personality typing and spotting that you can learn and start
applying in only a few minutes from now.
It is a way you can look at a women’s body (what
you do naturally) and determine a personality type in as little as a few seconds
and know with a high degree of probability whether she is the right personality
type for you or not.
But first a
little history….
About two years
ago I was visiting my chiropractor. I had an injury to one of my legs which kind
of turned one of my feet outward. My natural feet angles where pretty much
straight on – what I call 12 noon. If you were to look at a clock both my feet
would be pointing to 12 noon on the clock dial. By definition there was no angle
between my feet.
They were parallel when I walked.
Because of my
injury to my left leg, however, my left foot was pointing to about “6 minutes to
12 on a clock face “and my right foot was
pointing at 12 noon when I walked.
I asked my
chiropractor about this and made a comment that assumed that most people must
walk with their feet pointing to 12 noon. He said that they didn’t and then he
said something VERY, VERY INTERESTING. He said that the angle of the feet was
controlled by a muscle and organ than had something to do with the emotion of
“fear.”
Now this interested
me to no end, as the emotion of fear is something that I had observed and
definitely played a role in personality types and typing.
I had a little
more discussion with him, but in the end, I left his office with a hypothesis to
test. – That the relative angle between the feet is a measure of the emotion of
fear within a person.
Now, “fear” is a
very important emotion when it comes to personality typing. No “fear” makes a
man very brave. A little “fear” makes him conservative, a lot of “fear” makes
him afraid and even more “fear” and he is terrified. If an angry man has “fear”
mixed in with his anger he becomes “covert” (backstabbing – as he is afraid to
attack you from the front) rather than “overt” (face-to-face) in his anger.
Interesting this
thing called “fear.”
For example my
“love girls” of the barroom days had “no fear.” In fact they were so brave they
scared men.
The “beautiful
teases,” were very afraid, they acted brave (apparent flirt) but then ran away
at the first sign of real interest.
Those “gradient
girls,” they just had a little fear – afraid men in bars were all just a bunch
of jerks.
The strategies
that I evolved to pick up these different types of women were pretty much molded
to handle their different types or levels of relative “fear.”
Interesting……….
After my talk
with the chiropractor, I went back to the clubs and looked at a few examples of
these “barroom” personality types with respect to this angle between the feet.
First let me
give you a few definitions in case you don’t know what degrees and angles and
other geometric terms are.
Let us use the face
of a clock for an example. Look at the big hand and the little hand. They both
start at the same point in the center of the dial, but the tips of the big hand
and little hand point to different places. The two lines formed by the big hand
and the little hand create an angle. The angle between them is measured
geometrically in degrees.
A circle has 360
degrees. So in the clock example every minute would be a change of 6 degrees. So
if we use 12 noon or 12 o’clock. The two hands are parallel and there is no
angle, or 0 degrees.
When it is 12:05
pm the hands create what is called a 30 degree angle. When it is 12:10 the two hands create a 60 degree angle. At
12:15 the two hands create a 90 degree angle and at 12:20 the two hands create a
120 degree angle.
Now the angles
between human feet don’t get much wider than that. (though I have seen a few
12:22s ) So for our purposes let’s stop the geometry lesson here.
For our purposes
though, I usually don’t refer to the angles between the feet as 12:15 etc. as
one has to turn one’s head to see the angle correctly. If I am using the clock
analogy, I usually refer to the feet positions as - left foot from 1 to 10
minutes before 12 noon or 12 noon if straight -- and the right foot from 1 to 10
minutes after noon or 12 noon if straight -- (i.e. left foot 5 minutes before noon, right
foot five minutes after noon.).
Let’s
continue
Now “Love Girls”
tended to have perfectly straight feet (both feet pointed at 12 noon). Gradient
girls typically have an angle between the feet of about 12 to 24 degrees – left foot (1 or 2 minutes before noon) right
foot (1 or 2 minutes after noon).
The beautiful teases
typically had a angle of between 72 to 120 degrees between their feet - left
foot (6 -10 minutes before noon) right foot (6-10 minutes after
noon.)
Now when I say
usually or tended I mean about 8 or 9 times out of ten. Or a correlation of
80-90 percent with the personality type. Now for those of you who know anything
about correlation that is pretty high. That means you could make predictions
about personality types and be right 8 or 9 times out of ten.
Interesting………
Does that mean
everyone with straight feet are “love girls”? No. It doesn’t. No more than if I
said college professors all tend to have a high IQ, would it mean that everyone
with a high IQ was a college professor. Love Girls are just a small subset of
people with straight feet.
What it means is
that people with straight feet have little or no fear. Thus you will find them
doing all kinds of things that exhibit little fear. – They might be the kind of
people that start their own business, or work on commission, or take other job
or career risks that others might be to afraid to do. They, might be the kind of
people that will talk to anyone, share their real thoughts and opinions
easily, and say all kinds of personal
things that others would be afraid to say out of embarrassment.
It could mean
however, that if a girl with straight feet ever gets herself in a position where
she is terribly horny, without a boyfriend, and the only thing she can think of
is going to a bar with the intention of picking up some guy to get laid, well
then she would most likely go about it like a “Love Girl” and NOT like a
“Beautiful tease” or “Gradient Girl”.
But be careful
how you interpret these things or it could get you in trouble.
Remember, feet
angles give you the relative amount of fear. That is all we know for sure.
Everything else is a correlation.
So let’s talk
about fear for a second. There is situationally appropriate fear and generalized
fear. Everyone – all personality types – should have situationally appropriate
fear. So we all might feel some fear walking down some bad street with gangsters
and hoodlums all around us late at night. We all might feel some fear trusting
our life to some doctor performing an operation where only 50% of the people
survive.
It is
generalized fear – non situationally appropriate fear – that tells us more about
personality type. Being shy and afraid to talk to women is a form of fear. Being
afraid to talk to a bunch of people in front of a public speaking class is a
form of fear. Being afraid to invest one’s money in a business venture is a form
of fear.
Being afraid to
leave one’s nine to five job security to start your own business is a form of
fear. Being afraid of the dark is a form of fear. Being afraid of the unknown is
a form of fear. Being afraid of what your friends might think about something
you say or do is a form of fear. Being afraid of looking ridiculous in front of
your friends is a form of fear.
It is these
generalized fears and non-situationally appropriate fears that determine
personality type.
You see the
“Love Girl” is confident and fearless. She isn’t afraid of men, so when she
wants to get laid she walks into a bar knowing she’s sexy and knowing she can
intimidate men. She just looks every man in the eye because she wants a
confident fearless man – just like her.
The gradient
girl is not as confident and fearless. She is afraid that most of the guys in
bars are jerks. So she approaches the situation with that bias. She is not so
afraid that she will run away from men who will approach her, but she will
banter with them and just say “no” when it comes to the real “pick up” moment
because her fear biases her towards the viewpoint that men in this situation
should be feared.
The “beautiful
tease” is deathly afraid of men. She is in the bar because she is trying to
overcome her fears. She is beautiful and has learned that men will respond to
her, so she flirts to get attention and attraction which make her feel good. But
as soon as some guy gets really interested, she runs away. She is deathly afraid
and can’t confront it. It takes a guy who understand this and make her feel
totally safe and in control to seduce her. Such was the technique that I worked
out 30 years ago.
So how do we use
this “angle of the feet” observation to help you guys with your dating and
relating problems.
Well there is
one giant maxim that I am going to give you in a moment, but first let me say
the way you use this is to make observations for yourself. I’m not here to give you lessons in personality
theory. Just know that there are different personality types that correlate with
the “angles between the feet.”
Start by
observing the angle of your own feet. Then observe the feet of the people that
you know and observe similarities and differences in personality. Start out with
major differences, Like people with straight feet versus people with very wide
feet. See which angles you get along with best.
There is no
right or wrong here, or good or bad. There is just compatibility.
So HERE is the GIANT
MAXIM. (a truth or basic principle).
MAXIM:1 - You should
not get into a relationship with anyone who is more than 2-3 minutes on a clock
face or 12- 24 degrees (geometrically) different than your own “angle between
the feet.” People who are more than 2-3
minutes or 12-24 degrees different from you are going to have personality types
that are too different from you to achieve total compatibility with.
Remember,
however, that this is only true 80-90% of the time. There will be exceptions to
the rule. WHY? Because people have “façade” or “social” feet angles juts like
they have “façade” or “social personalities.”
For example,
people who are in the acting or modeling industry may be trained to walk with
their feet totally straight. (12 noon). So you may have a “beautiful tease” that
has straight feet because she was trained to walk that way not because she has
“no fear!” Get it.
People have
accidents to their legs and feet and back etc. that can change the angle between
their feet and give you a false interpretation.
Usually however it is one foot that is out, not both, but I have met
people with both out as results of accidents.
MAXIM 2: - If
you are in a relationship with someone who has an angle between their feet more
than 2-3 minutes on a clock face or 12- 24 degrees (geometrically) different
than your own “angle between the feet,” and if you get along beautifully, than
forget about it. You are probably in that area of the 10-20% exceptions that
don’t correlate. Ultimately you have to observe the person in front of you and
not their feet.
However, if you
are having trouble with this person in a relationship, then observe their exact
angle and make a point of meeting other people with that angle and talking to
them. Talk to your guy friends with a similar angle. There is a personality type
here, get to know and understand it. They are different from you. They don’t
think like you do. So throw all you assumptions out the window and get to know
the personality type in front of you.
If you can do
that then you will be able to improve the understanding between each other in
the relationship. The closer they are in relation to your own “angle between the
feet” however, the better chance you have for long term survival of your
relationship.
WHY DID I GIVE
YOU THIS DATA?
This is one of
those observations that took me years to observe and figure out that you can
benefit from immediately.
Stick with girls
(and guy fiends) with similar foot angle and you will find you get along better
with them.
Does this mean
that we shouldn’t have friends with different foot angles? NO it doesn’t. It
just means for those real close relationships that you can choose – girlfriend,
boss, best friend, etc. – you would get
along better and stand a better chance of achieving a long term successful
relationship with someone who is within 2-3 minutes of your own foot
angle.
Remember also
there are different kinds of relationships. Some buddy or girlfriend you see
once a week doesn’t have to be as compatible with you as someone you live with
or work with every day. Use this data to
qualify those kinds of situations.
Make some
observations of your own. Look at your own feet angle. Look at the people that
you get along with best. What is their foot angle? Look at the people that you
definitely don’t like. What is their foot angle. You will discover trends. You
might notice that 6 out of 10 people that you really like have a foot angle
within 2-3 minutes of yours and that 3 out of 10 people that you don’t like at
all have a foot angle within 5-10 minutes from yours.
But foot angle
is immediately noticeable. It gives you a quick 80-90% reliable method of sizing
up people fast. It also let’s you see through facades and “social” personalities
as most people don’t pay attention to feet and don’t try to fake the angle of
their feet.
Once you start
making observations you can associate with the various foot angles you will be
able to predict people with relative accuracy (80-90% right).
Now as a final
note I want to say “ Please don’t believe me. Don’t assume what I am telling you
is true. Go observe for yourself.”
Look at all of
your friends and relatives. Correlate the angles with their personality types.
Go to a busy street corner or a mall and start observing these foot angles. A simple test or computation is the percent of
perfectly straight feet (both pointing to 12 noon). Count the number of people
with straight feet out of every 10 that walk by or every 100.
Do it by sexes.
Do it by age groups. Do it by races. You will see some interesting
things.
Here are some of
my observations after 1000s of observations.
In Los Angeles/Beverly Hills where I made most of my
observations, on the average:
1-2 to men out of 10
have straight feet.
2-4 women out of 10
have straight feet.
8-9 out of 10
children under 8-10 have straight feet.
The above was the
same for black, white and brown Americans but oddly
5 out of 10 Chinese
Americans have straight feet. (didn’t look at sex differences)
In
Japan (Tokyo)
7- 8 out of 10 women
have straight feet
1-2 out of 10 men
have straight feet.
Walking or
standing may be different for different people. Walking is a better
determination, but how one stands can also be a clue to hidden tendencies if it
is greatly different.
If you make any
interesting observations about any of this please tell me about them at one of
my various blogs or forums at www.DatingToRelating.com , www.DatingToRelating.net , or
www.MeYouWorld.net
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